To HAVE

So what's the use of HAVING something? That's my question, as usual - and this time, we're talking about a boat! Question is: after the purchase - what do we DO to what we have? Huge responsibility, I thought. 
I wasn't wrong.

A sailing boat's maintenance is something costly. The idea was chartering. That meant we were supposed to do what we did to others, for ourselves. I wasn't keen on the idea, and I was sincere. But that was the fulfillment of a dream... participating was WELL WORTH IT.
But having to cope with futile people who live off reality and go on charters wearing high heels and can't take salty water sprinkled on their fashion clothes is simply a drag. 

We were in La Maddalena when Paul first saw Morning Glory, a 43 foot-Sparkman Stevens, with its typical wide cheeks - excellent for going against the wind - simply beautiful, but apparently abandoned. Someone told us it was left there after its German owners divorced. 
After some contacts, there we go on my good old Renault, towards the Alps of Germany, until we got to Garmisch-Partenkirshen. There, we met the boat owner, this really scared lady, with two children, who promptly took the offer, and was extremely generous in offering us a place to stay and the staple German diet: potato salad with sausage.
That is how we bought a yacht in a mountain area, with snow up to our knees, in just 30 minutes  - no bureaucracy.
This fact made us face what it is TO HAVE. It is certainly a verb that's been used forever to socially define all human condition. And I wonder - what is it to have a home? Or a family? What is it to have a love? What about having cancer - what is it? What is it to have a child? 

Is this all about having, meaning = owning, valuing, and consequently, judging? Shouldn't we instead use a better expression for it, such as "BEING GIFTED BY LIFE"?